Our movie loving cook friend came up this past weekend. No, we didn't watch any movies this time. Instead we watched the complete first two seasons of Sex in the City. My roommate had never seen any and she had never seen the original unedited versions. I had seen about three unedited episodes prior to this. It was an experience for us all. After she left I had to check to see if I was still male...
Though it's just a stupid show and, in many ways, not related to my life ever, it did make me think about a few things. In one episode, Charlotte, who I think was the character I liked the most for many reasons, asked a man out. Though they all considered themselves "modern women," they seemed to feel doing so is "being the man" in the relationship. Is this typical for the average "real" woman? And, if so, why?
In another episode, Miranda and a bartender broke up because she tried to buy him a suit and he felt emasculated. The class issue was also awkward for her. When we left them, after a short break, the became friends and finally "friends with benefits." From my atypical male perspective, unless my writing career takes off, any woman I date wouldn't make less than me though, if my library career career gets off the ground, our salaries may be similar so I have no choice but to be OK with this. If I did have one, I'd like to think it still wouldn't bother me. I realize my core audience is two teachers and a stay at home mother, but what are your thoughts on this?
In other news, the woman who lived, with her boyfriend, down the hall from me, that I had an interest in, moved out. I hadn't seen her in awhile and then I come back from church yesterday to see their apartment, door open, devoid of furniture and being vacuumed. Those of you who know me well know why I'm depressed by this despite knowing nothing was ever going to happen between us anyway...
Though it's just a stupid show and, in many ways, not related to my life ever, it did make me think about a few things. In one episode, Charlotte, who I think was the character I liked the most for many reasons, asked a man out. Though they all considered themselves "modern women," they seemed to feel doing so is "being the man" in the relationship. Is this typical for the average "real" woman? And, if so, why?
In another episode, Miranda and a bartender broke up because she tried to buy him a suit and he felt emasculated. The class issue was also awkward for her. When we left them, after a short break, the became friends and finally "friends with benefits." From my atypical male perspective, unless my writing career takes off, any woman I date wouldn't make less than me though, if my library career career gets off the ground, our salaries may be similar so I have no choice but to be OK with this. If I did have one, I'd like to think it still wouldn't bother me. I realize my core audience is two teachers and a stay at home mother, but what are your thoughts on this?
In other news, the woman who lived, with her boyfriend, down the hall from me, that I had an interest in, moved out. I hadn't seen her in awhile and then I come back from church yesterday to see their apartment, door open, devoid of furniture and being vacuumed. Those of you who know me well know why I'm depressed by this despite knowing nothing was ever going to happen between us anyway...
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I'd say though, I am not a believer in the whole gender role stuff. I think when you like someone, that is what should matter most. I'm sure many would disagree with me when it came down to it. But, I still believe in love. :)
I'm sorry that you are down. There is someone right out there for you. I think things are already looking so much better for you. It happens when you least expect it. :)
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